Thursday, June 22, 2017

Paci Free!

Reaghan has officially been pacifier free for 1 whole week!

She has only been allowed to use her paci at nap times and bedtimes for almost a year now, but for some reason we just couldn't get rid of it all together. Some of it was hesitancy on my part. I knew how easily the pacifier helped her fall asleep and I was selfishly worried that she wouldn't nap or sleep as well without it. Obviously as she's gotten older its become more and more obvious that she didn't really need it she was just used to using it.

When Lilly was born I tried to feel her out about getting rid of the paci, saying that now that Lilly was here she might need all the paci's and since she was a big girl she should give her pacifiers to Lilly. She was very matter of fact in that conversation, letting me know that Lilly had her own paci's and she could keep her big girl paci's. She wasn't really getting the whole "big girls don't use pacifiers" thing. Since she didn't jump on board with a positive connection between Lilly and giving up the paci's I decided to wait for a couple months so there wouldn't be any negative associations. Maybe I read too many blog posts and over thought the idea that she might be bitter towards Lilly if she was the reason she had to give up her paci because honestly, Reaghan has shown zero jealousy, bitterness, resentment whatever towards her baby sister. So it probably wouldn't have been that big of a deal, but wait I did. Also, I needed to come to a place where I was getting enough sleep that I could handle any toddler meltdowns in the middle of the night along with the newborn's needs! Once I felt like I could handle it if went horrifically wrong, I started telling her at night during her bed time routine that we were going to have to say goodbye to her paci soon, and then I said in a few days, and then one night I told her that if she gave up her pacifier she would get a special treat. {she sort of loves special treats!} She immediately pulled her paci out of her mouth and handed it to me! haha I told her I didn't have a special treat right then, and that she could sleep with her paci one more night and the next day we would say goodbye to the pacifier and get a special treat. She went to bed really excited about the idea. I went to bed thinking oh man, this is it. We have to go through with it now! This could be my last night of decent(ish) sleep for a while!

The following night at dinner we told her our plan. We said we would put her pacifier in a special bag, take it to the ice cream shop and throw it away and after she threw it away she could get her special ice cream treat! She was so excited! I l.o.v.e when she gets excited about things. When we got there she marched right up to that trashcan, took her paci out of the back and tossed it into the trashcan without a second thought! I was the one that got a little choked up when I saw that pink paci fall into the dark hole. I'm ridiculously sentimental. But you guys! My first baby is growing up!


She enjoyed every bit of picking out all of the toppings for her ice cream and savored every bite. I knew we hadn't gotten to the hard part yet so I was still a little nervous about how the night would go. When it was bed time I reminded her of how she traded her paci for a special treat and how proud of her we were and that she could pick out a toy to sleep with instead. She chose one of her stuffed teddy bears and our bedtime routine continued on as usual. No tears. No nothing. It did take her longer to fall asleep and at one point she called to ask if she could sleep with her polka dot blanket too and we obliged her sweet request. Once she fell asleep, we didn't hear from her again until the morning!


I couldn't believe it! I was kicking myself for not getting rid of that thing sooner, but also eased my mommy guilt by telling myself we waited until she was really ready. I couldn't believe it was so easy!

But I celebrated a little too soon because he next night was a different story. There was quite a bit of pouting and tears. She wanted to know how she was going to twirl her hair if she didn't have her paci???  Reaghan's not really a big fit thrower... when she doesn't get her way she pouts, and cries and tells us she's sad. Usually she is reprimanded for this behavior but we loved her through her paci withdrawals reminding her how proud of her we were for being a big girl and emphasized the new blanket/toy that she could sleep with. She eventually fell asleep that night too! The third night was minimal pouting and no tears and by the 4th night that pink pacifier was a distant memory. It didn't affect her napping in the afternoon either which was something I was dreading! 

She hasn't asked for it once since that second night and she is very proud of herself for not using a paci anymore because she is a big girl now and pacifiers are for babies. ; ) Every night she picks out a blanket to sleep with and stuffed animal and she's good. 

I'm so proud of my little girl. The break the paci addiction went way better than we anticipated with really only one bad night! I definitely don't miss her hair being piled up in knots from all the twirling right now or the drool on her shirts after nap time! But I do cherish each little milestone, realizing there will be a last time for everything! 

Treasure all the little ins and outs mama's, I imagine in 10 years I am going to miss her sitting on my lap while I gently brush the knots out of her hair in the morning. <3

Monday, June 19, 2017

Father's Day {2017}

See this guy? This is the one my 16 year old heart fell in love with 12 years ago. If you had told me then that I was actually going to grow up to marry him and have his babies I might have fainted from happiness. Okay, probably not cause I'm really not the swooning type of girl, but you get the idea.  My 16 year old self always wanted that to be the plan, but the fact that it actually happened?! Wow. God is good to me,


I've had 2 girls with the beanie loving, 2 shirt wearing drummer pictured above. {I thought his style was so cool when we were in high school, and to be honest, I still kind of love it when he wears a beanie} We've both grown up a lot since then and even more since we decided to bring babies into this world. I've seen him grow in selflessness and compassion. He demonstrates tenderness and patience when my patience runs dry. I've seen the worry in his eyes when his girls are sick or hurt, revealing the depth of his love for them. I'm humbled by the way he always rushes to be the hero for Reaghan's timid personality. I've learned his "limit" and how he functions under more exhaustion than we've ever known. I've watched him develop into a father that is purposeful and intentional with his love, discipline, and time. 

Sunday, June 11, 2017

See Lilly Grow {4 Months}

Lilly is growing way too fast for me! We are enjoying watching her develop more and more of a personality but it is bittersweet to see her growing up. We've watched one baby morph into a toddler before our very eyes and our second seems to be moving a long even faster!

In a way she's grown a lot this past month reaching milestones, and at the same time I feel like I could leave much of what I wrote last month exactly the same!



Thursday, June 1, 2017

OBX Beach Week!

Last week was our annual Beach Week trip with Mark's family! We're starting to outgrow the little condo we stay in now that we have 2 toddlers and 2 babies filling the space up with all of the things, not to mention vacation with 2 kids is even more work than vacation with one buuttttt its totally worth it.

 We had some rainy days and some really nice beach days. We did some shopping, had a tornado warning one night, and I may have dressed the girls in matching outfits every. single. day.

We worked through some severe toddler anxiety regarding the beach with Reaghan. I wish I could say we overcame by the end of the week, but she was still terrified on our last beach day. Once we were down at the beach for a little while she would slowly start to relax and enjoy herself and even wanted to be carried down to the waves to SEE them {touching the water was out of the question} but her initial reaction at the top of the dunes was to have a meltdown because she was scared. So thats what I mean by work through. It completely caught us off guard because she's been to the beach here at home this season without any issues and even our first beach day on Monday in the OBX she didn't have any anxiety, but when we went back to the beach on Thursday she was a mess. Toddler's are super fun sometimes you guys.

Here's a little recap of our week:

DAY 1:
First Beach Day! It was a little overcast and windy but still fun. 
 Babies did great napping under the umbrella!

DAY 2:
It was chilly and rainy so we decided to go to the aquarium... which apparently was also every other person in the OBX plan as well. The line to get in was ridiculous so we headed to the outlets instead and then enjoyed a relaxing afternoon at the Condo!


DAY 3:
It was chilly and still a little rainy so we decided to wake up early and try the aquarium again. We got there right when it opened this time so no lines! Reaghan was terrified of half of the exhibits. She's not an adventurous kid. haha In her defense the shark in the shark tank was definitely on the creepy side and looked like it was coming right towards her and Mark!  


After the aquarium we walked around Manteo and ate at our favorite sandwich shop, Poor Richards. We played at the park a little bit, got some ice cream, had a delicious seafood dinner that night to celebrate Mark's sister getting Tenure at ODU and then took an evening walk on the beach.


DAY 4:
It finally stopped raining so we were able to enjoy another beach day! This was the day that Reaghan decided she hated the beach! Mark was super daddy and brought down a little blow up pool for the girls to play in and played games with them to help Reaghan focus on anything other than the waves! She eventually asked Mark to take her down to see them and teach her about trusting him. <3


That night we visited a new playground and as soon as we pulled into the parking lot it started to thunder, lightning and down pour! We decided to wait it out and thankfully it passed after 5 minutes. The playground was super wet after that, but we had some towels to dry it off and we still had fun. 


DAY 5:
Another beautiful day! All 4 girls wore flamingo bathing suits so we had to get a picture right?
After dinner we went out and did a little shopping and then came back and let the girls play with the things they got and made necklaces with them. Lilly tried so hard to roll over from back to belly while we were there but just couldn't figure it out!


DAY 6:
Our last beach day! Since this was our 3rd beach day in a row we were starting to get a little beached out, especially with Reaghan still being afraid to leave her towel or chair for most of the time we were there, so we didn't stay too long. We still enjoyed building some sand castles and Lilly loved the little hole in the sand we made for her so she could be propped up and see what was going on. My favorite part of the beach days was honestly bringing the girls in, giving them baths and getting them ready for their naps. There is something so satisfying about clean, sleepy babes. Reaghan was so sweet with Lilly after their baths as they laid on the floor or on the bed together while I showered. I couldn't get enough of it. I just wanted to bottle up those moments. I stared and savored as long as I could and then patted their sweet bums to sleep. 


My in laws went out to dinner at their favorite restaurant that night and we took the kids to a local, more casual seafood place for dinner. After dinner we went to Tshirt Whirl to pick out custom OBX shirts. Reaghan and Brooklyn liked watching the Tshirt press. And we ended our last night with a walk on the beach. Mark wins super daddy of the year again for always carrying Reaghan on our walks since she was too scared to walk by herself. Granted she's a petite little thing, but she still gets heavy after a while!


I'm so thankful for our chance to spend time with family and relax with some sunshine and sand in our toes! It's the perfect way to kick off summer.  



Mother's Day

Apparently I'm just going to continue my trend of posting about events weeks after they happened. ; )

We had a fun and full Mother's Day a couple weeks ago. We got home from our D.C. trip late Saturday night and we were up early the next morning for church! I bought the girls adorable matching dresses from H&M and I wore the dress I wore on my first Mother's Day 3 years ago. I looked a little more put together that morning when I only had one babe to get ready for church and we didn't have to be there an hour early for worship band practice but I still treasure my Mother's Day picture with my sweet girls.


We unintentionally matched my mother and sister-in-law with the girls in denim dresses and the mom's in floral. Our sweet new niece, Anslee Marie, who was born on April 18th, was dedicated that morning so I'm glad we got a quick picture.


After church we went home to change and then headed back to my parents for our first lunch of the summer in their backyard by the pool. My Dad grilled us up some thick, juicy steaks! Erin got me a really cute #momlife tank that I had to wear aaaaand I dressed the girls alike again in Carter's outfits that I got from Marshall's. 




I'm so thankful for my mommy. 
She challenges and encourages me in my motherhood and she is what I strive to be like as I raise my girls. I've inherited her proud, opinionated character traits which sometimes has us seeing things differently, but she is also wise and steady and strong and I hope one day I can claim that I am those things as well because of her. 
She's also a pretty great Grammie to her granddaughters! 



I've been on a fresh flower kick recently so Mark brought home some beautiful roses for combo anniversary/mom's day gift. I guess that's a bonus for him having Mother's Day and our anniversary happen in the same weekend. ; )



He got me a necklace with Reaghan and Lilly's names and birthstones on them that I L.O.V.E! For some reason the picture won't load so you'll just have to take my word that it's really sweet.
He also got me a little devotional book to do with Reaghan and my sweet sister Sara made me a cute mother's Day craft with the girls while we were on our trip. I love it and it's definitely going in the girls little memory box. I love their sweet little feet!


Side note:
I just realized I never took a picture of the gifts I made my mom and mother in law and I'm so bummed because they turned out so cute! Little footprint and hand print designs on a flower pot with some flowers {obviously} planted inside. Reaghan had so much fun helping me pick out the flowers and plant them after painting the pots with me. I've got to snap a picture the next time I'm over at my moms because I was so proud of them! I love crafty things that involve hand prints and footprints in any capacity. I may have boxes and boxes of them by the time my kids are adults! :) 

Wednesday, May 17, 2017

5 Year Anniversary

Last weekend Mark and I celebrated our 5th Wedding Anniversary by taking a quick overnight trip to D.C. Mark really surprised me a couple months ago when he suggested going out of town for our anniversary and then he planned the whole thing out for us! We left early Friday morning and headed straight up to the Air and Space Museum's annex hanger outside of D.C. Neither of us had been there before so we were both excited to check it out. Mark was especially excited because he wanted to see the space shuttle!


Monday, May 8, 2017

See Lilly Grow {3 months}

Lilly Jean is growing, growing, growing. 
She reached 3 months on the 3rd!
Check out what she's been up to!


Sunday, May 7, 2017

Easter Weekend


3 weeks ago we celebrated Easter Sunday, one of my favorite Sundays of the whole year! I always look forward to the renewed excitement the church feels as we celebrate the resurrection and anticipate the Saviors return. I mean, we carry this with us throughout the year, but the expression of it on Easter always makes Heaven seem a little closer.

I was afraid we weren't going to make it to church Easter morning because Reaghan got sick in the middle of the night and woke up in a mess of her own throw up. I had a feeling it was just from the treats she had eaten at her Grammie and PopPops {we had spent all day Saturday there} but I wanted to be sure it wasn't anything more. Thankfully after I got her all washed up and back in bed with Mark and I she was fine and never showed another sign of feeling bad. We skipped Sunday school  to give her time to make sure her breakfast was going to stay down just in case so I got to enjoy a lazy morning in bed with all my favorite people before getting up to get ready.




Of course I bought the girls matching dresses... Lilly is pretty much a pro at timing her spitting up to right after I get her dressed and/or prop her up for a picture... thus the wet mark on the front of her sweater ; )

Thursday, April 6, 2017

Mini Van!

We're officially all grown up now... we're the proud owners of a mini van - aka swagger wagon, aka mom mobile, aka.... thats all I can think of... hmm... I thought there were way more nick names for minivans when I started that sentence! 

Wednesday, April 5, 2017

See Lilly Grow! {2 Months}

Lilly Jean turned 2 months old on Monday! I can't believe I only have 3 more weeks of maternity leave left. : ( I had to go to a continuing education course this past weekend, so I was gone from my girls from 6:30am to 5pm Saturday AND Sunday, and it was hard! I know a lot of mama's do it, but I'm so glad I don't work full time. I think the sleep deprivation alone would really challenge my ability to be a good wife and mom! It was Mark's first time flying solo with BOTH girls this weekend too and everything went great! Lilly did struggle with the bottle a bit the first day though. We had given her a bottle a few times before and she had done fine, but for some reason the flow was way too fast for her this weekend. Maybe her sucking power has really increased! I ran out Saturday night after the course and bought some slower flow nipples and Mark said she didn't have any problems on Sunday. It's a little stressful to get a text saying your baby is struggling to eat when you're 20 minutes away and stuck in a classroom and theres nothing you can do! It literally made my boobs hurt! haha Weird breastfeeding symptom! Thankfully Mark is super daddy and made it work.

Lilly is definitely out of her newborn stage! She's very alert and animated now. It's bittersweet but of course there's nothing like watching your baby grow.



Friday, March 17, 2017

Toddler Days

So this probably isn't a real exciting post but I love to document these kinds of things to be able to look back on. I know I could do it in a baby book, but this little blog has become my favorite place to post. And now that we have Lilly its so easy to go back and compare stories... like reading Reaghan's 1 month post as I did Lilly's.

Reaghan is 2 1/2 today! We are in the thick of the toddler days with her and while she is a total sweetheart 90% of the time because of her more reserved, quiet, God-given disposition, she's still a toddler. She can whine and cry and sass with the best of them. She is more inclined to whine about things than to throw an all out temper tantrum {I honestly don't know what I would prefer} but the few times she's had a full on melt down have revolved around using the potty {randomly she'll decide she doesn't ever need to poop again} or when we've allowed her to have screen time with her little kindle that we got for road trips. {once it was because she had to stop using the Kindle while she was on the potty -- double whammy! -- and it happened right as a visitor walked through our door to bring us dinner after Lilly was born. It was a humbling moment.}


Wednesday, March 15, 2017

Lilly's Newborn Photos

I'm the worst at blogging right now. I posted Lilly's 1 month update before I even shared her newborn pictures. Oh Well. Let's just rewind time for a minute and go back to my beautiful babe at just a few days old. She's already getting so big and more alert, {which I love!} but there's nothing like that first week with a fresh baby. That time before its important to start getting into a schedule... when all that matters is lounging around and cuddling and getting to know the sweet new life that's become a part of your family. *Sigh* Nothing. Like it.


Monday, March 6, 2017

Monday, February 27, 2017

Lilly's Birth Story

Lilly turned 3 weeks this past Friday! I can't believe I haven't taken the time to sit and blog about her birth story but its just been so much more fun cuddling with her on my lap rather than a computer! But I'm finally ready! So here are all the details that no one has asked for but I know you want to know ;)

In my last pregnancy update I left you getting ready to go begrudgingly make a dinner that I didn't want to make because I wanted to be in the hospital having a baby. All of the start and stop labor I'd had over the last week had left me exhausted and I snapped at my husband when he first got home from work and was a little too short with my toddler when she woke up from her nap. Thankfully God's grace penetrated my dark attitude and I was able to turn the evening around and enjoy it with my little family. After we put Reaghan to bed that night, Mark and I sat on the couch talking and I told him we should just start planning the Super Bowl party because I was pretty sure I was going to be pregnant through the weekend. I wasn't upset saying it either, just resigned to the likely fact. Erin called me around the same time to ask how I was doing and encourage me to just be patient and let it be. She encouraged me to rest and stop trying so hard and maybe even go get a massage or visit a Chiropractor the next day to help relieve stress and relax so my body could work. I was all for the massage idea so when I got off the phone I told Mark that I was going to try and make that happen the next day. I went to bed feeling more content and repeating a verse that God had put on my heart the week before... "He will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast on him..." Perfect peace. No contractions since before my nap, but falling asleep with perfect peace.

Only a few hours later I was woken up by a contraction around 3am. Nothing crazy and I was able to fall back asleep. About 4am I was awakened by another contraction and this time this one was MUCH stronger. I could feel it in my low back and thighs and it lasted a good while. I could tell this one was different. This was the intensity level that I had been waiting for. I told myself if I had another one that strong I would wake Mark up and let him know... sure enough 11 minutes later it came again and was even a little stronger than the one before. I stayed laying on my side and breathed my way through it and then woke Mark up. I told him if one more came like that then it was go time! A little less than 10 minutes later the third one came and was so strong I had to get up on my hands and knees to breathe through it. We got up to start getting ready and I noticed it was 5am - I smiled remembering how my water had broken with Reaghan at 5 in the morning! Funny how I was starting labor at the same time of the day! I called Erin to come sit with Reaghan and when I called she said she was actually already awake and didn't know why but hadn't been able to fall back asleep. (I love including these little details because I feel like they are the intimate ways that God takes care of us. He had her prepared.) Before we left the house I had 2 more contractions that stopped me in my tracks and caused me to lean on something for support or get on my hands and knees. I'll admit I was getting a little nervous that I was going to start feeling the urge to push before we got to the hospital, thats how strong and painful these puppies were coming on and they seemed to be getting a little closer together each time! It was hard to breathe through them sitting in the front seat of the car on the way to the hospital and we had to wait for one to pass after we parked before walking inside.


It was 5:55 when we stopped at the desk to check in. I was so frustrated that they wanted me to fill out some paperwork because I had already pre-registered. Isn't that the point of pre-registering? Mark said I was little short with them and I'm sure they thought I was being overly dramatic as I leaned on their counter to breathe through a contraction while a lady holding out a clipboard waited for me to sign the papers, but they didn't know I was already towards the end! When they finally got me into a gown and in the triage room the nurse checked me at 8cm dilated and 100% effaced and little miss Lilly already at the +1 position! You should've seen Mark's face when they said 8cm. Eyes as wide as saucers! He came over to hold my hand, shaking his head and said "we're having this baby soon, aren't we?" He was so relieved to be at the hospital. With all of my prodromal labor he was afraid I was going to wait too long to go in and have the baby in the car or something haha I just told him "See? I knew exactly when to come!" He just rolled his eyes. : )

Tuesday, February 7, 2017

Welcome Baby Lilly!




Lillian Jean Poindexter decided to finally make her debut last Thursday morning!
So funny to me that she came the morning after writing my last update
God heard my prayers of exhaustion!
I woke up around 4:30am that morning knowing it was definitely time to head to the hospital and she came crying into this world only 3 hours later at 7:42.
She came at 40 weeks + 6 days, exactly like her older sister did, but the labor was an entirely different experience! One that I'll be sharing soon! 
But for now we are enjoying time at home with our new little one, loving on her and enjoying life as a family of four!